Twentysomething… – The Shrinking Jeans of Melissa

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January 10, 2009 By Lissa

Things I loved about my twenties:

*The process of growing up. I got had my daughter when I was 20, got married when I was 21, and had the twins when I was 24. Justin and the kids are the best thing about my 20s. I am proud of the fact that I have survived bedrest while pregnant with the twins with my four-year-old, while my hubby was working out-of-town. I made it through those sleep-deprived nights of two crying babies and breastfeeding. I didn’t know if I would at the time! By the way, they did NOT both start sleeping through the night until they were almost TWO! Our marriage and family survived attempts by my husband’s parents to not let my stepson be a part of our family. We prevailed through job losses, moves, deaths, and a shit-ton of other trying experiences. That’s a good feeling.

*Buying our first house. Selling our first house.

*Moving to Colorado.

*Having a close relationship with my Dad.

*Finding myself. It took me all those years to be comfortable with who I am and to learn that I don’t have to stress over what people think about me.

*Having the freedom to experience a variety of careers: data entry, bartender, Realtor, medical transcriptionist, airline CSA… which gives me the knowledge to help me on my path to decide what I really (or really don’t!) want to be when I grow up. Luckily, I have had a supportive and hard-working husband to help me through these times too!

*Finishing a half-marathon with my friend Nora and raising a bunch of money for The Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. And was still alive to tell about it after we finished.

*Being able to become close with my awesome cousin-bffs, Megan and Erin.

*Having the means to be fortunate enough to travel and see many parts of the United States.

Things I did not love about my twenties:

*The process of growing up. I got had my daughter when I was 20, got married when I was 21, and had the twins when I was 24. See above answer.

*Struggling to regain my body after having children. I would settle for something even resembling my old shape.

*Watching how hurt and upset my husband was when his parents took us to court. That was an extremely painful time for us.

*Constantly struggling with my in-laws. That’s a whole other post in itself!

*Learning how to balance the home, kids, and myself while my husband is away for weeks at a time.

*Leaving Colorado.

*Losing one of my husband’s best friends.

*Having a roller coaster relationship with my Mom.

*Losing my Grandfather. That was a tough one.

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