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Thursday Three :: Three Stages of Weightloss by April

[ 7 ] 05/13/2010 |

Hello.  My name is April, and I have a history of yo-yo dieting.  I’ve gained weight, lost weight, gained it all back and then some, lost more, gained it again, lost it again.  Sound familiar?

One of my problems way back when was that when I gained weight, I told myself that I could lose it again at anytime I wanted.  And for the most part, that was true.  I’d get it into my head that I wanted to lose weight.  And lose weight I would, but most of the time, this never lasted.

The reason that this never lasted was because I just wasn’t ready yet.  I was still going through the stages of weightloss.

The stages, you ask?  Yes.  I am a firm believer that we all go through stages of weight loss.  Your stages may not be exactly the same as mine, but I’m betting they’re similar.  I’ve touched on this before, but I think they are worth mentioning again.  Not only to get YOUR minds thinking, but also to remind myself of a few things.  You see, things here have been kind of stressful and crazy, and I can feel old habits tugging at my mind, and it would be so easy to let those old habits re-surface, so this is a good reminder to me where I’ve been, where I don’t want to go back to, and how far I’ve come.

So, without further adieu, I give you MY three stages of weightloss:

1.  First, we have the Fad Diet Stage.  You name it, I’ve probably tried it.  Slimfast just left me hungry.  I’m sorry, two “shakes” and one sensible meal was not my idea of a good time.  And if you know me at all, hungry April = GRUMPY APRIL.  Atkins just left me angry.  (Sorry, Dad.)  I seriously tried to give up carbs, and I failed miserably.  I like LOVE carbs.  Like a lot.  And after two days of giving up carbs, I found myself hating anything and everything around me.  Carbless April = ANGRY APRIL.  (What I didn’t know at the time that I was eating the wrong type of carbs.)  So, I cheated, and then eventually I gained all of my weight back then some.  THEN, there was the “magic pill”.  What I will give this pill was that it was actually physician recommended, and it worked.  So, much so that I was probably at the lightest weight I have ever been.  I took my pill, and I was happy.  The problem?  If I didn’t take the pill, the weight came back.  Also, the pill was expensive. *sigh*  Fad Diet Stage FAIL.

2.  The next stage that I went through was the I Work Out So I Can Eat What I Want Stage.  For about two seconds, this stage is great.  In the first few weeks, you work your ass off, and you see results.  I worked out in they gym every single day for 45 mins a day.  Most mornings, I would get up at 4:30 a.m. to get these work outs in.  I lost 15-20 lbs and then hit at weightloss wall.  (For those interested, this wall is called The Great Wall of You’re Doing It All Wrong.)  After hitting this wall, I became frustrated. And I thought, why bother?  So, I didn’t.  I Work Out So I Can Eat What I Want Stage FAIL.

3.  My third and final stage was This Is Now Your Life Stage.  One of my favorite quotations nowadays is “A diet isn’t something you go on, your diet is how you eat” or something close to that.  I had gotten back into the working out part of things, and one day, something just clicked.  I needed to change the way I was eating.  I didn’t need to go on a diet, but I needed to have a healthy diet. (See the difference?)   So, I cut out all white carbs (but not carbs altogether), started counting calories, and the weight melted off.  The changes I made physically lead to a self discovery of who I really am and who I want to be.  I’ve learned to love myself, and I now know that I will never go back to the person I was.

Look, we all have different stages or phases that we go through.  Not one is the same as the other.  We are all on a journey that is unique, and we have to get to that point of self discovery on our own.  However, no matter how different our journeys are, we all have the common bond that we’re living that journey.  Our journeys would be so very much harder without the support we give each other.

So, what I want to hear from you right now is what are your stages of weight loss?  If you are in stage 1, 2, 3 or even 4 or 5, I don’t care…I want to hear it.   Give me the good, the bad, the ugly, and the funny.  And know that no matter what stage you are in, we are here with you, for you.  And together, we will ALL succeed.

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About april: I'm a brand new cyclist! In just a few short months, the sport has reminded me that it's all about the journey, and I need to enjoy the ride. I live with my two dogs and two birds, and love to spoil my nephew. Oh yeah, and I'm 32. View author profile.

  • seemamarun

    I can't believe I'm going to spill it right here, but here goes. I am in stage #543 – the I'm exhausted and overwhelmed with life so I really don't wanna count calories, points or write it down. I just want a magic pill that will take the weight off. While I don't mind exercising (and actually enjoy how I feel post-activity) I'm so not there with the food. And this, I know, is why I keep gaining and losing the same few pounds.

  • http://thesassymama.blogspot.com Heather

    Great post! I'm still slide back into the 'I'm working out so I can eat what I want phase.' But I know that I need to get to stage 3. At least I am aware, right?

  • babyboy3

    I think I am at the final stage. Changing our diets to be a lifelong change not a short term one. Also exercising too and knowing that I feel better when I do it. I do think that sometimes I might indulge here and there and feel like it's okay because I am exercising so I can splurge but then I usually do extra workouts. I hope I stay in this stage and don't slide back.

  • lastminutemandy

    Thankfully I just left Stage 4 (which I affectionately refer to as “fuckitville. Is it okay to say that? hmmm, hope so. Anywho…) I left 1 a long time ago – I was the same way as you, April, and hated atkins. Angry Mandy no likey. I think my train may be pulling into the station at stop 3. I'm at that “okay dumb ass, just DO something already stage.” Apparently I'm also at the cursing stage.
    My bad.

  • Lacey

    Thanks for the great self-reflection piece! I started with the very unhealthy eating (or lack there of) habits. Then turned to the fad diets (they have to be healthy since someone recommends them with a Dr in front of their names, right?). Then turned to the “I'll just work it off”…which turned into the “why bother working out, nothing I could do is going to burn that ice cream off.” And, then I did the “well, I'll just eat this whole container of ice cream today, so that it's out of my house and start fresh tomorrow.” Now, I would like to think that I've found a great balance of healthy eating and exercise through the slow and steady approach.

  • http://www.fatburningfurnacescamorreal.com/ Jessica Connors

    Great! Been there,done that. I can totally relate to what your saying. I am sure your post will be plenty useful to a lot of people who are interested in weight loss.
    Good post. Cheers

  • Jeannine

    I also went through the, “I just give up soda” phase. Didn't really lose any weight and went back to soda. I had a problem finding something to drink that was diet and tasted good. Diet soda sucks. I found diet ice tea is the drink for me.

    I'm now eating healthy and exercising after all the head games that I fed myself. I am motivated now because there have been events that I haven't gone to because I couldn't find anything to wear and didn't look like I used to. It's embarrassing because you don't want to tell the people it's because you're overweight , so you end up looking like a flake with some lame excuse.

    I'm in the beginning stage of losing 30 pounds. I've lost 10…..20 more to go. It's frustrating though because two pounds a week is very slow for me. It's gonna take me like 6 months what I wanted to lose in a month. The key is to not fall back because I'm not really just losing 2 pounds a week, I'm also losing the weight I would have continued gaining if I didn't do something.

    I love your piece. Very accurate and insightful.