The new May Your Way challenge is turning out to be totally awesome. So many things to try and join in on. I was sad to miss Sisterhood Chat on Monday, but as I type this, I am waiting to join Happy Hour. But when I found out I was going to be the one to write the inaugural Eff It Friday, I was beyond excited.
Eff it doesn’t have to be negative. I think it can be empowering. One of my all time favorite movie quotes is in Risky Business when Tom Cruise says “Sometimes you just have to say what the f#%k”. Sometimes you just do. Sometimes it’s the best response. Sometimes it just makes you feel better if you say it.
I spent a lot of years not doing the right things for myself. I was someones wife and someones mom first. I always came in last on my list of things that needed to be done. I love my family. I was happy with my life just as it was. It never occured to me that I was doing things that were hurting me. It took a long time for me to realize that I needed to think about me too.
When I had that “aha” moment so to speak, I knew then what I had to do. I knew that I had to start thinking about me along with everyone else. I had to make a plan to get myself back in shape. I had to eat right and quit cleaning the kids plates for them. I had to exercise more than chasing the kids and vacuuming. I had to put me on my to do list. That is just what I did. Well…sort of.
I did it to a degree. I didn’t commit with my heart. I just said I would do it. When it was convenient, I did. When it wasn’t convenient, I just didn’t. Pretty much every Monday, I would say that I was starting over.
On March 29, 2009, it all changed. I said wtf, eff it, whatever you want to call it and I joined the Sisterhood of the Shrinking Jeans. It is one of the smartest things I have ever done for myself.
I learned through all of you what I needed to do. With all of your help, I have learned to actually like exercise. I know what are the right things to eat. In the last two years here, I have lost 20 pounds. I still have a long way to go. Hopefully another 40 or so pounds.
I don’t pretend that I have this whole process down pat. I’m still learning. I hope I always keep learning and finding out new things about this journey. There are still days when I say eff it and don’t exercise or eat something I shouldn’t. There are also days when I say eff it and do the right things. When I exercise more than normal or eat exactly what I should for the whole day. Saying eff it works both ways.
So maybe this is your day to say eff it or to help someone else to say it. It really can be empowering. It can give you that start that you need to get back on track. Give it a try. I did and look where it got me.