Sharing Your Motivation


This is a tale of two people.

One has this on her mind:

She thinks often of her quest for fitness. She has learned the importance and value of exercise for both her health and her sanity. She fits workouts into a busy schedule. She moves. She breathes. She feels good about her efforts , even on days when there is more “work” in the workout than she counted on.

The other has this on his mind:

He thinks often of a quest for fitness. He uses words like “should” and phrases like “maybe tomorrow.” Person No. 1  is often inviting Person No. 2 to go for a walk or a bike ride. Nothing monumental. Just something vertical, something moving, something that gets the heart pumping. She knows this helps his moods. She knows this improves the  day. Any day. Always. Her “do you want to go for a walk with me?” changes to “Will you go for a walk with me,” because in her mind she thinks that the phrasing may actually make a difference. Sometimes it does. But  more often than not, she heads out the door alone.

After a while, she feels like she should just stop asking, any which way the question is asked.  She gives up trying to bring him on board, gives up spouting all the reasons why exercise is important. She heads out the door alone.

That picture above is not me. The one below is not him. But the conversations rings true. The struggle is real.

Have you ever tried to bring someone along with you on your health and fitness  journey? What convinced them to take the first step? Have you thrown your hands up in frustration? And have you come to realize you are in your own race and there is little you can do to bring someone in from off the sidelines?

I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments.




  • Gregory Kuhn

    Person #2 hasn’t had enough pain yet, has he? When I meet, or read about, people who are still stuck in the insanity of doing things the same old ways (and getting the same old results) it makes me so grateful that I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired today (hence, I’m willing to do things differently).

    And part and parcel with that gratitude comes gratitude for all the things that it took to get me to this place of willingness. That includes being grateful for the unwanted weight I used to have and the pain it caused me. I wouldn’t be where I am today without that pain!

    Thanks Mary. Great post!

    • Mary P.

      Thank you, Gregory. And thank you for the reminder that everything it has taken along the way to bring me to where I am is part of who I am, and all of that is completely independent of what Person No. 2 may or may not be doing. I need to keep the focus on myself (not trying to be selfish, but you know what I mean!).

  • Abby Wiley Frelich

    This post really hit home for me. I actually held myself back from going for a walk because I wanted so badly for the other person to come with me that I waited to see if they would change their mind. Eventually I realized that I wasn’t doing either of us any favors and stopped waiting. I still ask, but if I get a no or a noncommittal answer, I just go. I feel good about myself, and I escape those feelings of disappointment.

    • Mary P.

      I can relate Abby! I always have to tell myself “YOU need this. You need to just GO or you need to just DO IT” and get myself out the door. Once I get moving, I get outside my head so to speak and like you said, escape the feelings of disappointment. So very true. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!